In contrast to almost all postings I have read in this area, she treats the student as a mature person and openly grapples with the complexities of the situation. Free-ride on advising a TA how to deal or cope with his desire to date one of his students.A TA may not have a lot of power over his students, but could it be enough to mess things up?There are some big questions Forbidden Chemistry needs to think about here.The other students might decide that Forbidden Chemistry is falling down on his TA duties if he doesn’t provide them with similar all-access consultations out of class.
Would this give her greater access to Forbidden Chemistry to get her questions answered about how to make the labs work, or how to analyze the data, or what counts the most on the lab write-ups?
Finally, Forbidden Chemistry needs to consider the possibility that the object of his affections, if asked out, may decline.
How awkward would make their interactions in the context of the TA-student relationship?
This prof does not views ethics as dictated from above nor does she preach anything in the name of conformity.
As for her advice, the only place where I think she is off base is when she advises that the final grading of the student should be by the professor not by the TA.