Catholic dating resources
How could I have ever expected Liz to marry me and become a part of my family if she didn’t know firsthand what that was going to mean? "Plus, I always have believed that marriage is about family.
Anyone who is not interested in having or being a family has no business getting married." Even after spending time together and with one another’s families, how does one know whether the person he/she is dating is the one God has intended to be his/her spouse?
And so that they may not deplore for the rest of their lives the sorrows arising from an indiscreet marriage, those about to enter into wedlock should carefully deliberate in choosing the person with whom henceforward they must live continually: They should, in so deliberating, keep before their minds the thought first of God and of the true religion of Christ, then of themselves, of their partner, of the children to come, as also of human and civil society, for which wedlock is a fountain head.
"Let them diligently pray for Divine help, so that they make their choice in accordance with Christian prudence, not indeed led by the blind and unrestrained impulse of lust, nor by any desire of riches or other base influence, but by a true and noble love and by a sincere affection for the future partner; and then let them strive in their married life for those ends for which the state was constituted by God.
"It’s more about having accomplished certain developmental and moral tasks," he said.
Popcak recommends that parents ask themselves certain questions when deciding whether and when to allow their children to date, including: Does my child know how to be friends with the opposite sex?
Do I know my child to be a moral and spiritual leader among his/her peers?
Gregory Popcak, who, with his wife, Lisa, authored (Ascension Press, 2012), says that age is less important than maturity when it comes to dating.
Dating plays a vital role in the marriage-discernment process, giving young people experiences with the opposite gender so that they can learn what types of personalities may be a good match for them.
For Stu and Liz Sigmund of Oconomowoc, Wis., dating was an indispensable factor in their marriage discernment.
The Sigmunds dated for four years and were engaged for one before marrying in 2011. When they began dating, Stu was 23 and Liz was 21; neither had seriously dated anyone before, and that’s the way they both preferred it.
They also both were discerning vocations to the religious life, with Liz being more certain that she was called to marriage, but Stu still divided between marriage and the priesthood.
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Our middle son recently announced his engagement to a young woman he has been friends with since childhood and dated for nearly four years.